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the soundtrack of Ainda Estou Aqui (I’m Still Here) has a few bangers

and this one truly has the most exquisite vibes

Juca Chaves — Take Me Back To Piauí

“In the face of strong pressure for women to have sex with male partners irrespective of their own sexual desire, some women report acting according to a logic of nurturance or pragmatism, so that they are able to “go along with sex” in the absence of sexual desire.

Such instances of women deciding to have sex with a man because he appears so “needy” or “pathetic,” or because she wants to give him something, or take care of him, or not hurt his feelings, can be seen to arise out of a discourse of male sexual needs and a discourse of femininity that promotes female nurturance.

If sex is so important to men, and it can be experienced as “no big deal,” as a mundane or ordinary physical activity by women, then the cultural context is ripe for making sense of a women’s “gift” of sex as something that is too small not to give (without appearing unreasonably mean).

Against this backdrop, it is not surprising that some women may experience it as “easier” to “let sex happen,” than to keep resisting when they don’t want it.

Thus, pragmatic ends, such as getting some sleep, can also enter into the decision. (…)

If a woman’s more subtle forms of conveying a lack of interest in having sex are not attended to and respected by a man, then this possibly raises for her the specter of how far he might be willing to go to get what he wants (i.e., the potential of rape).

That women in such circumstances might consider this potential for rape when deciding to “go along with” a man’s unwelcome sexual advances perhaps illustrates what was meant by earlier feminist rhetoric that “all men benefit from rape.””